Why do we as women over-think everything? For one, this drives me crazy. Nobody talks about it; are we just expected to smile and pretend everything is ok? The truth is, some women literally can’t sleep at night when having a train of thought running through their heads. This applies when thinking about work projects, presentations, confronting someone and most often for women, when talking or messaging men. Before we send a message, we read and re-read it a hundred times to make sure that we’ve sounded cute, not asked too many questions, but made sure we’ve asked a question so that they will answer. Then after we send the message, we think of a better way we should have worded it. Then we wonder if he will ever answer, maybe we blew it, perhaps if only the message had been written differently.
Then hours later you get a response, if you’re lucky. Then this process happens all over again! How long do we have to wait to respond? Do we open the message right away? Why do have such high expectation of ourselves presuming we are doing everything correctly? If we wait too long, does it seem that we are playing games? If we answer too quickly are we desperate? If only, we could find the rule book on how this works. But really….men are probably are just busy in their lives, and maybe didn’t have a moment to read the message. Or maybe they did read it and didn’t have a chance to respond that very minute. Perhaps they are preoccupied with other commitments. But still we worry!
Perhaps we all wish we could stop over-thinking everything. It just causes stress and anxiety for no reason. Perhaps if we shared with each other why we should take a step back and not over think things, it would be helpful.
It just seems that everything comes easier for a men. They probably just type their message, press send, never analyse it and never think twice as to why it took her two hours to write back or wonder if she might be talking to someone else.
If only, we as women could rationalize this and stop over-thinking, perhaps take a page out of men’s books, we could lower our crazy expectations of this dating game.
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